I hate to be a negative Nellie, but I need to have a short venting session. Normally I am a positive, cheerful person, I promise!
Valentines day. Cupid, hearts, teddy bears, and chocolate. Is there really anything endearing about the holiday? I don’t think so.
Maybe it’s my negative past experiences of V-day, but the only memories I have of the holiday remind me of an array of awkward moments and undesired gifts.
Lets scroll through some of the best gifts I received. How about that second hand teddy bear from a first date (never agree to a first date on valentines day) or the giant dog stuffed animal (uh, what do you do with that eye sore) from a college boyfriend?
Look- its great if you enjoy the night of romance with your partner- but the whole holiday is so full of pressure and expectations it could suffocate someone. Plus the selection of gifts is cringe worthy. Foiled roses, red tacky lingerie, and heart candy? No thank you.
I haven’t always felt this way. I used to get excited about V-day. I would plan sentimental gift ideas for my guy. Then the inevitable would happen- I would over do it and wonder why he didn’t get me the gift I hinted at for weeks. I would wonder what every other “lucky” girl was doing for valentines day, moping around like a sad bear.
Oh yea, and those years of being single on Valentines day are even worse. It’s like the national holiday reminding you of your single-hood.
Maybe it’s the many years of bad experiences, or the fact that as a mom with a baby I lives in my jeans and converse now, that I’m just not in the mood to get dressed up and go all out on V-day, but this is the first year I actually forgot that it was coming. The good ole store reminded me that next week it was time to tell my husband I love him with a hallmark card.
Well, Brian and I haven’t celebrated V-day since we’ve been married, and I’m relieved this year I’m not scrambling to do so. I treat V-day a lot like New Years- I’m happy staying home with a good flick and take out dinner with my cherished one (whom I DO love!)