I refuse to let petty demands and lists replace my kid and husband. I am Momma Bear around here, and sometimes I need to make the decision around this house to spend a day of hookie and hang out with my family when I feel the time is right. Life can shove it and bug me another day.
I woke up today with a list. I was in “go-mode”. Brian and I went to breakfast with Lillian, and I knew that as soon as he took off for work I had a ton of things I wanted to get done.
I needed to run to the post office, make a return, get some library books, and make a meal for a family.
As I pulled into the library parking lot, I noticed there was a annual book sale. I went inside, and was instantly drawn in. Needless to say, I meandered with my daughter in tow for a good half hour. Hmmm… that was the start of my wayward day.
Then, I decided to take Lillian into the children’s room for a few minutes to spend some one-on-one time with her. I felt she had been deprived throughout the week of a little quality time. Well, a few minutes turned into an hour. We explored the drinking fountain, the fish tank, and the puzzles. We read books and colored. We hung out with one another and laughed.
I knew she was in need of a nap but was hungry. I needed to feed that child if I was going to get any errands done. I was afraid she would fall asleep quickly though, so I decided to take her to a great little burger joint close to the library and share a small lunch with her. We ate, and laughed, and just enjoyed lunch. I even had a beer. And a corn dog. Midday. Eek.What kind of mom am I?!
By the time we finished up, three hours had gone by. As I walked her back to the car, I felt too tired to do anything but head home. She fell asleep, immediately, to the sounds of the Chipmunk’s Christmas Carol’s (an impromptu purchase at the library sale, one I was super excited about).
Call it hookie, call it whatever you want. But do you ever just throw away your plans and do nothing for a day? It is so unlike me to do this. Sometimes we have to find rest and throw away our plans to focus on the one’s that matter.
I remember having a vision that if I ever had a daughter, I hoped that we would do things like shopping, lunch, and girls’ days with one another. I suppose that dream is coming true. It makes me really happy, and I look forward to my daughter being my friend one day down the road. I guess the way I can make sure I squeeze in this quality time is to squeeze out some of life’s demands here and there- because life isn’t patient. I want my daughter to remember that we had moments where we laughed, sang songs, read books, and talked about daily life. I don’t want her to remember a busy and stressed mom who never made time to have fun. If my house is a mess here are there I don’t care. I would rather it be filled with love and dirty dishes.
Hope you are all having a good day. And hope you find a moment or two this weekend to cherish the ones you love.