Some days you gotta drop everything…

I woke up today with a list. I was in “go-mode”. Brian and I went to breakfast with Lillian, and I knew that as soon as he took off for work I had a ton of things I wanted to get done. 
I needed to run to the post office, make a return, get some library books, and make a meal for a family. 
As I pulled into the library parking lot, I noticed there was a annual book sale. I went inside, and was instantly drawn in. Needless to say, I meandered with my daughter in tow for a good half hour. Hmmm… that was the start of my wayward day. 
Then, I decided to take Lillian into the children’s room for a few minutes to spend some one-on-one time with her. I felt she had been deprived throughout the week of a little quality time. Well, a few minutes turned into an hour. We explored the drinking fountain, the fish tank, and the puzzles. We read books and colored. We hung out with one another and laughed. 
I knew she was in need of a nap but was hungry. I needed to feed that child if I was going to get any errands done. I was afraid she would fall asleep quickly though, so I decided to take her to a great little burger joint close to the library and share a small lunch with her. We ate, and laughed, and just enjoyed lunch. I even had a beer. And a corn dog. Midday. Eek.What kind of mom am I?!
By the time we finished up, three hours had gone by. As I walked her back to the car, I felt too tired to do anything but head home. She fell asleep, immediately, to the sounds of the Chipmunk’s Christmas Carol’s (an impromptu purchase at the library sale, one I was super excited about).
Call it hookie, call it whatever you want. But do you ever just throw away your plans and do nothing for a day? It is so unlike me to do this. Sometimes we have to find rest and throw away our plans to focus on the one’s that matter.
I remember having a vision that if I ever had a daughter, I hoped that we would do things like shopping, lunch, and girls’ days with one another. I suppose that dream is coming true. It makes me really happy, and I look forward to my daughter being my friend one day down the road. I guess the way I can make sure I squeeze in this quality time is to squeeze out some of life’s demands here and there- because life isn’t patient. I want my daughter to remember that we had moments where we laughed, sang songs, read books, and talked about daily life. I don’t want her to remember a busy and stressed mom who never made time to have fun. If my house is a mess here are there I don’t care. I would rather it be filled with love and dirty dishes.

I refuse to let petty demands and lists replace my kid and husband. I am Momma Bear around here, and sometimes I need to make the decision around this house to spend a day of hookie and hang out with my family when I feel the time is right. Life can shove it and bug me another day. 

Hope you are all having a good day. And hope you find a moment or two this weekend to cherish the ones you love.
 

Comments

  1. says

    I love this! I feel like I say that about a lot of your posts. BUT I just really love this. I feel like we (Callie and I) do this every few weeks. I skip the errands and we stay home and bake, or we ditch a mom/baby class and go to the park, etc. It feels so good to just be those days. Good for you! So glad you had a fun “skip” day!

    • says

      Oh Jenny your too sweet! I am happy there is another mom out there who feels like I do! Hope you get some time with your little one this weekend yourself. Thanks for the comment. It means a ton!

  2. says

    I can definitely relate! I try to do the same with 4 at home. I realized that whenever I take a break from my to-do’s or being plugged in so that I can just be, it feels good. We need that every once in a while.

  3. says

    I always wish for more days like that and sometimes we make it happen, I love days like that! For the most part I just try to make time for the kids at home (5 y.o. girl and 2 y.o. boy), I play with them in their playhouse or play hide and seek – they are so thrilled when I do that! Plus it is getting much easier to do stuff around the house now that they play better together (and he doesn’t just destroy everything she builds like he did at 18 months). I remember having just my daughter, she needed so much of my time because she was lonely and had nobody to play with!

    • says

      I know it is so hard for me to make days like this happen. Thanks for your comment. I totally agree about staying it- everywhere we go I feel like I leave behind a trail of crumbs or almost break an object. Lol.

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