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Why asking for help is good for us (especially when you lock yourself out of your house!)

Crud. I am humiliated. I am going to confess what I did this morning to you all. I did something so dumb.

I totally locked myself out of my house with my toddler.

I was just on my way out the door to my nanny job with my daughter. I was already pushing the time, but was doing ok. I did my checklist in my head out the door. I had my water, food, Lillian’s milk, her books. Check. My arms were filled with my daughter, a tote bag, and my diaper bag. My hands were holding my coffee and her milk. I grabbed my keys and started out.

Then I stopped to grab Lillian’s pacifier and look around the house. I usually do that. I double check to make sure the stove is off or that I grabbed everything I needed. I almost always forget something.

Well, I headed back out the door, locked the door from the inside, and set Lillian down. As the door was closing I thought, “keys!”. Too late. The door had shut. I started panicking and literally threw everything out of my bag. Sorry Charlie. No keys in my bag. I set them down at some point before leaving.

So there I was. My toddler was looking at me like, “Mom, what are we doing?”. I had no idea what to do! My husband couldn’t come rescue me, as he was at work really far away. I had a little girl waiting on me to care for her in thirty minutes. I had no way in to our house. I would call a cab, but I didn’t even have a car seat!

Ever find yourself in one of these predicaments? They suck. Because then I had to do what I hate doing. I had to call a friend and ask for help.

The only friend I could think of who had an extra car seat lives thirty minutes away and has a toddler of her own to care for. I felt terrible calling her, but I didn’t know what to do!

Well, she came. She helped me out. I bought her a pumpkin spice latte, and tried to do more, and she wouldn’t let me.

I felt so much gratitude for her driving a full hour around town for me. I felt so sheepish and helpless. I wanted to buy her something. Anything. How could I repay her?

After I shared those words with her, she chastised me in a good way. Her words healed my heart. She said, “Hey, we are friends. This is what friends do for one another. People rarely take time out of their schedules anymore to help one another. You don’t need to buy me anything. I don’t want you to buy our friendship. If I ever need help, I will call you back. I know what it’s like to be in need. I am happy I got to help you today.”

I see this girl about every other week. Our friendship has always been good, but today I felt her love and loyalty. I asked myself if I am the kind of friend she is to me.

As I strolled out of her car and into the house I nanny, I realized a day that had started out really crummy turned into something really cool. I was reminded of what it is like to be stuck in a crappy situation, totally helpless, and to have to depend on somebody. I was out of control.

My friend inspired me. I got out a pad of paper and wrote down some names of people I know could use a little help. Her little act of love propelled me to want to do a few things today for people I know are struggling.

Are you good at accepting help? Or are you like me? Do you feel terrible letting people help you or feel like you need to pay them back because you are an inconvenience?

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  • Reply Jenny

    I’m totally bad at asking for help and then when I do I feel like I need to pay it back a thousand times! I did it just the other night and a neighbor totally helped me out and I felt like I needed to buy her something to make up for the help! I understand.

    November 8, 2013 at 1:22 pm
  • Reply Tiffany Cutcliff

    Ah I am so glad I am not the only one:). Thanks Jenny. I appreciate your comment!

    November 8, 2013 at 2:56 pm
  • Reply lacy meeker

    Caleb literally just told me yesterday that I needed to learn to let people help me.

    Also, I was coming over here to check out the blog hop today and holy cow! I love the new blog hop look! and I’ll check back on it’s new day! Yay for Tuesday!

    I hope you are doing good! Talk to you soon!

    Love and Blessings,

    November 8, 2013 at 6:35 pm
    • Reply Tiffany Cutcliff

      That is too funny! I think our husbands can be keen on this. But my own hubby needs to take his own advice, too!

      Thanks for the compliment Lacy! I am so excited to have you join in next week.

      Yes, talk to you soon. How are you doing?

      November 10, 2013 at 1:51 pm
  • Reply Angie Agerter

    My husband and I did this exact same thing a year ago, and we both kicked ourselves, good news is? We couldn’t find a way back into our house, so at least its hard to break into lol I am so glad your friend was able to come help you out. She is right that is what friends do, so thankful you had her today.

    November 9, 2013 at 6:37 am
    • Reply Tiffany Cutcliff

      So true! I was happy to know our windows are super secure. And we also figured out that we need to have a back up plan. A lesson in everything I suppose! Thank you!

      November 10, 2013 at 1:52 pm
  • Reply Susannah

    Wow, what an absolute blessing that friend was to you!

    November 9, 2013 at 6:54 pm
  • Reply Jess @ Adventures in Ginger Mommyhood

    I have the same problem! I’ve gotten better about asking for help since I’ve had Clay but sometimes it’s just really hard!

    November 10, 2013 at 1:14 am
    • Reply Tiffany Cutcliff

      BTW. I love your blog name! So cute.

      Thanks for your comment. 🙂

      November 10, 2013 at 1:53 pm

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