Lately I have seen two of my favorite bloggers depart from the blogging community for a while. Sad.
I felt prompted to give a response to this. I have thought a ton about this over the past year. I recently visited a blog you might know- the Matt Walsh blog, and was HORRIFIED at the mean comments people wrote. I mean, I know this is the web and we are to be open to ideas. But these weren’t comments that were left in for thoughtful debate. They were debasing and cruel.
Do you live in a home? Probably. Would you want someone you don’t know to bombard in and tell you how to live?
Our blogs are our real estate. I own my blog, and you own yours. You can post as much as you want when you want. There are no hard, fast rules for blogging.
“She takes too many sponsored posts”. Maybe she has a family she needs to feed.
“She posts too many pictures of her baby.” Maybe that baby is more important to her than material things.
“She only posts twice a week.” Maybe she takes her job and life seriously and doesn’t have much more time to commit.
“She hasn’t responded to my comment.” Maybe there is an issue in the family preventing her from doing so.
“She doesn’t have many followers.” Maybe she doesn’t give a CRAP.
Sheesh. I am sorry for the vent. Writing is supposed to be art. We share our life experiences through words. They carry our hearts. It is so scary and vulnerable to put yourself out there in this day and age. I am terrified half of the time to really share my faith or feelings about hard topics. Why? Because any person out there can come and bash me for my honest to God faith just because they think it is wrong or their way of life is better. It IS so much easier to keep things shallow than delve into deeper issues. I would way rather post about fashion or a great products because what is the loss if someone disagrees? Surface level, really.
What is with all the judging? Where do the stats and numbers get you anyways, really? What is all this “climb over one another” with such a competitive spirit? Why did we start blogging, anyways? Because that is what it all comes back to in the end. My husband reminded me of that the other day when I took a job that I realized was getting way off base. He told me, in an encouraging way, to be true to myself. I might have less followers, but I will feel good about the writing I am putting out there. It was a gut check for me, and SO freeing. I have been checking my stats a lot less since, and worrying tons less about what people “think”. Success is good! Making money is great! It is not the end all to blogging. Sharing experiences with others is what matters the most. Am I crying over making a small mistake? No way. I re-evaluate and move on. Should we judge other bloggers for momentary changes in their blog or changing directions? I hope not!
Brad Pitt said this in an interview with Rolling Stone:
Pitt: “Man, I know all these things are supposed to seem important to us – the car, the condo, our version of success – but if that’s the case, why is the general feeling out there reflecting more impotence and isolation and desperation and loneliness? If you ask me, I say toss all this – we gotta find something else. Because all I know is that at this point in time, we are heading for a dead end, a numbing of the soul, a complete atrophy of the spiritual being. And I don’t want that.”
Being the top blogger is not what is most important. Finding meaning in blogging and this world (for me in Christ), is what is most important. Success, over time, fades. My relationships with some of you are SO much more important than that. Hands down.
I love this place. It is like home to me. My version of home. You may not be comfortable here, and that is ok! But I never want to tell you how to run your household. Let’s stop judging one another!
At the end of the day, these are REAL people behind the blogs with hearts that really beat. Let’s remember that, .